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You know that moment when you’re in the grocery store parking lot, exhausted after a long day, and you see someone meticulously return their shopping cart to the corral?
I used to be the person who’d watch them with a mix of admiration and guilt as I left mine awkwardly wedged between two cars.
It wasn’t until my college professor called me out for “writing like I was afraid to have an opinion” that I started paying attention to these small choices we make.
That same awareness made me notice something fascinating: The cart-returners in my life were consistently the most reliable, thoughtful people I knew.
Turns out, psychology backs this up.
This simple act reveals far more about someone’s character than you might think.
Let’s explore the nine distinct qualities that these conscientious cart-returners typically display:
1) They have strong self-governance
Ever notice how nobody’s going to arrest you for leaving your cart in the parking lot?
There’s no fine, no public shaming, no real consequence at all.
That’s exactly why returning it says so much about you.
Scientific American points out that the shopping cart return is the ultimate litmus test for self-governance.
It requires doing the right thing even when nobody’s watching and there’s zero reward for your effort.
People who consistently return their carts have developed an internal compass that guides their behavior regardless of external pressures.
They don’t need rules or rewards to motivate them.
Their actions come from within, driven by personal standards rather than societal enforcement.
2) They demonstrate high levels of conscientiousness
Conscientiousness is one of the “Big Five” personality traits psychologists use to understand human behavior, and cart-returners score high on this scale.
These individuals tend to be organized, dependable, and disciplined in all areas of their lives.
Think about it: Returning a cart requires you to delay your departure, walk extra steps, and complete a task that technically isn’t your responsibility.
People high in conscientiousness naturally feel compelled to finish what they start and leave things better than they found them.
They’re the same folks who show up on time, meet deadlines, and follow through on commitments even when it’s inconvenient.
3) They possess strong empathy for others
When I started paying attention to cart-returners, I noticed they were often the same people who held doors open and picked up dropped items for strangers.
Cart-returners think about the teenage employee who has to collect carts in bad weather.
They consider the parent with small children who needs that parking spot but can’t use it because there’s a cart in the way.
Moreover, they imagine the elderly person who might struggle to navigate around abandoned carts.
This ability to mentally put themselves in others’ shoes extends far beyond parking lots.
These individuals typically show greater emotional intelligence in relationships and are more likely to engage in volunteer work and charitable giving.
4) They exhibit personal responsibility
People who return carts don’t make excuses. They don’t tell themselves “it’s someone’s job to collect these” or “I’m in a hurry.”
They accept that they used the cart, so returning it is their responsibility.
This sense of personal responsibility correlates with success in multiple life areas.
These individuals are less likely to blame others for their problems and more likely to take ownership of their mistakes.
They understand that small actions contribute to larger outcomes.
5) They practice delayed gratification
Returning a cart means delaying the satisfaction of getting in your car and heading home.
It might only be a minute or two, but in our instant-gratification culture, that’s significant.
People who can delay gratification tend to be more successful in their careers, have healthier relationships, and make better financial decisions.
The famous Stanford marshmallow experiment demonstrated this decades ago, and the shopping cart test reflects the same principle in everyday adult life.
6) They value social cooperation
Cart-returners understand that society functions better when everyone does their small part.
They recognize that their individual actions, however minor they seem, contribute to the collective good.
These people typically excel in team environments, contribute positively to their communities, and understand that cooperation often yields better results than competition.
They’re the neighbors who bring in your trash cans, the coworkers who refill the coffee pot, and the friends who help clean up after parties.
7) They maintain consistency between values and actions
What struck me most when I started returning my cart regularly was how it made me more aware of my other behaviors.
Was I living according to my stated values, or was I cutting corners when convenient?
People who return carts demonstrate integrity through action alignment.
They prove it through countless small acts.
This consistency builds trust in relationships and credibility in professional settings.
8) They show respect for shared spaces
Remember when your parents made you clean up your toys even though you were “just going to play with them again tomorrow”?
Cart-returners learned that lesson well.
They understand that parking lots, like all shared spaces, belong to everyone and no one simultaneously.
Their respect for communal areas extends to keeping public restrooms clean, not littering, and maintaining quiet in libraries.
They recognize that their convenience shouldn’t come at others’ expense.
9) They demonstrate emotional maturity
Perhaps most importantly, cart-returners display emotional maturity.
They don’t need external validation for doing the right thing, and they don’t post about it on social media or announce it to others.
The act itself is the reward.
Cooperative behaviors like cart-returning are linked to emotional regulation and maturity.
These individuals can manage their impulses, consider long-term consequences, and act according to principles rather than moods.
Final thoughts
After my professor’s wake-up call about having opinions, I started observing these everyday behaviors more closely.
The shopping cart test became my unofficial gauge for character assessment, and I’ve rarely been wrong.
Next time you’re in a parking lot, pay attention.
The person chasing down a runaway cart in the rain? They’re probably the same person who’ll show up when you need help moving.
The one who not only returns their cart but grabs a few strays along the way? That’s someone you want on your team.
As for me? I return my cart every time now because I finally understood that character is forged in parking lots, one shopping cart at a time.












