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You know what? Having a fat bank account doesn’t automatically mean you’re winning at life.
I’ve been watching my parents’ generation navigate retirement, and something fascinating keeps popping up. The happiest Boomers I know aren’t necessarily the ones with the biggest portfolios or the fanciest second homes. They’re the ones who’ve figured out a few key daily practices that make all the difference.
Think about it. We live in a society that constantly equates wealth with wellbeing. But if that were true, why do so many affluent retirees seem lost, disconnected, or just plain miserable? Meanwhile, their less wealthy peers are out there living their best lives, radiating a kind of contentment that money apparently can’t buy.
The secret isn’t complicated. It comes down to what you do every single day. Not once in a while, not when you feel like it, but consistently. These eight daily habits separate the truly thriving Boomers from those who are just going through the motions, regardless of their net worth.
1) They move their bodies without obsessing about it
Here’s what I’ve noticed about the happiest Boomers: they don’t treat exercise like punishment or some fountain of youth they’re desperately chasing. They just move.
My neighbor, who’s 68, walks his dog twice a day, tends his garden, and plays pickleball three times a week. Not because some fitness guru told him to, but because he genuinely enjoys it. Compare that to another guy I know who’s worth millions but spends most of his day glued to CNBC, stressing about market fluctuations.
The research backs this up too. Regular movement doesn’t just keep your body functioning; it literally changes your brain chemistry, reducing anxiety and boosting mood. But here’s the kicker – it doesn’t have to be intense. The Boomers who get this aren’t killing themselves at CrossFit. They’re swimming, dancing, walking, gardening. They’re choosing joy over performance metrics.
I learned this lesson from my own workout routine. Five to six days a week, I hit the gym for strength training and conditioning. But for me, it’s moving meditation, not a race against time. The most content older folks I know approach movement the same way – as a gift to themselves, not a chore.
2) They practice selective ignorance about the news
Want to know something counterintuitive? The most informed Boomers aren’t necessarily the happiest ones.
I’ve seen this play out repeatedly. The retirees who spend their mornings doom-scrolling through news feeds and watching 24-hour news channels are consistently more anxious and angry than those who limit their media consumption. And it doesn’t matter how much money they have in the bank.
The thriving ones? They check the news once a day, maybe twice. They stay informed without marinating in negativity. They understand that being plugged into every crisis, scandal, and controversy doesn’t make them better citizens – it just makes them miserable.
This selective ignorance isn’t about burying your head in the sand. It’s about protecting your mental real estate from forces designed to hijack your attention and emotions. The wealthy retiree watching cable news all day might know every detail about the latest political drama, but their less affluent peer who spends that time reading, creating, or connecting with friends is actually living better.
3) They maintain real friendships, not just networking connections
Here’s a harsh truth: professional networks tend to evaporate once you’re no longer useful to people’s careers.
The Boomers living their best lives understand this. They invest in genuine friendships – the kind where you can show up unannounced, share your fears without judgment, and laugh about stupid things that wouldn’t make sense to anyone else.
I’ve watched successful executives retire with hundreds of LinkedIn connections only to find themselves profoundly lonely. Meanwhile, their less career-obsessed peers maintained those Tuesday morning coffee groups, book clubs, and poker nights that actually matter when the professional accolades fade.
Real friendship requires vulnerability, something many high achievers struggle with.
But the Boomers who prioritize authentic connections over surface-level relationships report feeling more supported, understood, and genuinely happy. Money can buy you country club memberships, but it can’t buy you someone who’ll listen to you ramble about your grandkids or check on you when you’re going through a rough patch.
4) They embrace being beginners again
You know what separates thriving Boomers from their peers? They’re not afraid to suck at something new.
I recently met a 67-year-old woman who just started learning Spanish. She’s terrible at it. She laughs at her pronunciation, gets verb conjugations wrong constantly, and sometimes forgets basic words. But she shows up to her online classes three times a week, practices with language apps daily, and plans to spend three months in Mexico next year.
Compare that to wealthy retirees who’ve built their entire identity around being experts, leaders, the smartest person in the room. They’re terrified of looking foolish, so they stick to what they know. They might have more money, but they’re also more rigid, less curious, and frankly, more boring.
Being a beginner again does something powerful to your brain. It creates new neural pathways, sure, but more importantly, it reconnects you with the joy of discovery. The Boomers who get this aren’t trying to master everything – they’re just playing, exploring, staying curious about the world.
5) They read books that challenge them
I’ve mentioned this before, but I recently read Rudá Iandê’s new book “Laughing in the Face of Chaos: A Politically Incorrect Shamanic Guide for Modern Life.” One quote really stuck with me: “We are all wanderers in a strange and inscrutable world, fumbling our way through the darkness with only the faintest glimmer of light to guide us.”
This perfectly captures what I see in thriving Boomers – they’ve accepted that they don’t have all the answers, and they’re still actively seeking new perspectives. The book inspired me to question some of my own inherited beliefs about success and aging, and I see the same openness in the happiest older folks I know.
They’re not just reading safe, comfortable books that confirm what they already believe. They’re diving into philosophy, exploring different cultures, wrestling with complex ideas. One 70-year-old guy I know just finished a book on quantum physics. Did he understand all of it? Hell no. But the mental engagement, the struggle to grasp new concepts, keeps him sharp and engaged with life.
Wealthy retirees often have impressive libraries. But if those books are just trophies, if they’re not actually engaging with challenging material daily, they’re missing out on one of the greatest tools for mental vitality and growth.
6) They have a morning ritual that doesn’t involve checking their phone
The most content Boomers I know protect their mornings like their lives depend on it.
They wake up (often early, like my 5:30 AM routine), and the first thing they do isn’t reaching for their phone to check emails or stock prices. They meditate, journal, do gentle stretches, sit with coffee and watch the birds, or take a quiet walk. They give themselves time to ease into consciousness without immediately plugging into the matrix of demands and information.
This isn’t some woo-woo practice. It’s about starting your day from a place of intention rather than reaction. The wealthy retirees who immediately check their portfolios or news feeds start their day with cortisol spikes. Their less anxious peers start with presence and peace.
Those first few hours set the tone for everything else. When you begin with stillness and intention, you’re better equipped to handle whatever comes next. When you begin with chaos and reaction, you’re playing catch-up all day.
7) They give without keeping score
Here’s something interesting: the happiest Boomers aren’t necessarily writing the biggest charity checks.
They’re the ones mentoring without expecting recognition, helping neighbors without posting about it on Facebook, volunteering because it feels good, not because it looks good. They understand that generosity isn’t about the size of the gift but the spirit behind it.
I’ve seen wealthy retirees use their philanthropy as another form of status competition. Every donation comes with naming rights, every volunteer hour gets documented for the Christmas letter. Meanwhile, their less wealthy peers are quietly tutoring kids at the library, delivering meals to shut-ins, or just being genuinely available when someone needs help.
True generosity is liberating because it breaks you out of the transactional mindset that dominates so much of professional life. When you give without keeping score, you’re acknowledging that not everything valuable can be measured or monetized.
8) They’ve made peace with their imperfections
Finally, the Boomers who are truly thriving have stopped trying to be perfect. They’ve accepted their weird quirks, their past mistakes, their current limitations, and they’re not wasting energy pretending otherwise.
As Rudá Iandê writes, “When we let go of the need to be perfect, we free ourselves to live fully—embracing the mess, complexity, and richness of a life that’s delightfully real.” This resonates deeply with what I observe in content older adults.
They’re not trying to maintain some facade of having it all together. They laugh at themselves, admit when they’re wrong, ask for help when they need it. This authenticity is magnetic – people want to be around them because they create space for everyone else to be imperfect too.
Wealthy retirees often feel pressure to maintain the image of success that got them where they are. But that performance is exhausting, and it creates distance between them and genuine human connection. Their less image-conscious peers have discovered that vulnerability and authenticity are far more valuable than any performance of perfection.
The bottom line
After watching my parents’ generation navigate this phase of life, one thing has become crystal clear: wellbeing in your later years isn’t about your bank balance. It’s about your daily practices.
These eight habits aren’t expensive or exclusive. They don’t require special equipment or memberships. What they require is intention, consistency, and a willingness to prioritize what actually matters over what society tells you should matter.
The wealthiest Boomer in the world can’t buy their way into genuine contentment if they’re not doing the daily work of living well. Meanwhile, someone with a modest retirement fund who moves their body, nurtures real relationships, stays curious, and embraces their imperfect humanity is actually winning the game that matters.
The choice is yours, every single day. What will you choose?












